I live a twilight zone version of being a grandmother having to only see my grandchildren online.
As much as I would love to post photos of them and us spending time together we don’t have that luxury. Half of them live abroad and the rest are scattered here in the states and unreachable, not that we haven’t tried. Regardless, I adore seeing them any way possible, imagining what it would be like to actually hold all 6 close. I wouldn’t be a Granny if I didn’t show them off now would I?
Then we have the other three grandchildren who live in England where my husband’s family and grown sons reside. We were lucky enough to have the opportunity to travel to East Sussex last year to meet them for the first time. I don’t think there is anything as a grownup you can do to prepare yourself for becoming a grandparent and I will tell anyone it was scary and awkward that first 30 minutes having the kids jump all over us in excitement at our arrival. The first thing that came to my mind in that moment was my own grandparents, since passed away, and how much they meant to me as a child. From there it was a piece of cake. I wanted my “grand babies” to feel that same familiar happiness and I scooped them up hugging every one!
Sitting and looking at their photos could easily overwhelm me with depression because they aren’t in our life but I purposely switch gears into thinking ahead and hold onto the hope that before they grow up or we get too old we’ll be able to have one or all of them together with us for just one day. Being able to be an active grandparent in their life would certainly take the sting out of aging a little! Thank goodness for the internet and social media, in our case at least it and one of the children’s parents are able to share a tiny window of the children’s lives as they grow and change.